Category Archives: Spiritual Life

Life Happens – Mahjong Helps

Within a week of her becoming a widow, my mother-in-law took me to play my first Mahjong game. I was accompanying her to a standing weekly game  — she has two of those, for those following along at home — and she would not be the only widow playing that week. The women around the communal table had been playing each other together for decades and so picked and racked and tossed tiles at quite a clip. My mother-in-law let me watch a few rapid rounds before she placed me in her seat and invited me to join the game under her close supervision. Another player won the game before I had the chance to assemble a legitimate hand, but everyone there was a gracious loser, and I was no exception. 

The rules that seemed so confusing to me then seem obvious to me now. While I have yet to become a mahjong maven, in the few months I have been playing regularly, I have become proficient. Today, I could even qualify as a respectable competitor. Mahjong is having a cultural moment all across America and the ranks of players are growing quickly and rather happily for everyone involved.

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Whatever Shade or Stripe

Last year, on the morning after July 4th, I drove to Gettysburg, Pennsylvania to participate in the 2023 national convention of Braver Angels, a bipartisan organization working to bridge the political divides between “Blue” and “Red” America. I was one of the Blue delegates selected to participate in drafting a depolarization platform only one year ahead of a contentious presidential election. Braver Angels wanted to have a balanced number of Democratic- and Republican-leaning voters there, as well as a representative sample of Independents. A quick scan of the crowd showed how well they had succeeded in that. The Independent delegates wore their name tags on yellow lanyards; the Republicans wore theirs on red; the Democrats wore theirs on blue. For the three days we would be meeting together, we were instructed to mix and mingle. On the college campus where we gathered, we were assigned to mixed rooming groups. We were assigned to workshops enrolling mixed participants. We were told to sit at mixed tables in the dining hall and we did.  

So when I found myself having a meal with a handful of delegates wearing white lanyards, I was confused. They told me that they all — for institutional reasons — were required to maintain a neutral identity and had to exempt themselves from any partisan identification. Mostly, they were employed in governmental, educational, or religious organizations. I immediately envied them their exempted status. It never occurred to me to request this for myself, despite having been a religious professional for decades. How had I overlooked the separation of church and state that Americans have enshrined in law? 

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